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Hey There –
Welcome to the Journal.
My name is Sonja and I am a healer, erotic educator, and writer of magic words.
Here on the journal, you’ll find posts with inquiries and practices that guide you into your body so you can get in touch with the life force within it. I write about topics like eroticism, intimacy, practical intuition, embodiment, relationships, sex, and non woo-woo spirituality.
Check in each week for new posts. If you like what you read, check out my 1:1 work and group programs.
48 hours with no external validation (what I learned when my Instagram page was shut down)
I spent the better part of this weekend without the dopamine drip that comes from my Instagram feed, the result of having my account taken down by the new world that looks like 1984. My digital detox was not by choice. It was quite the opposite of what I would have...
Beyond the healing era
I’ve been in my healing era for the better part of three decades. I’ve wept in classrooms as I released generations of trauma from my womb. I’ve driven two hours through the Mexican countryside to have a healer spit mezcal on my back. I’ve sung myself home in sweat...
How not to fear falling in love
Here’s a bittersweet pill on your screen: We cannot love without losing. I discovered this when I was writing my book, Letters to My Lovers. And when I first felt this sword in my throat, it stung. Until I learned it didn’t have to. So let me show you how to swallow...
Stop searching for your soulmate
Why this modern day fairy tale keeps you from your true power in love. Whenever I hear a client talk about wanting to find their soulmate, their twin flame, their divine union, the “one,” I know exactly the path our work will go. Namely: expanding their understanding...
This is not a Valentine’s Day post
Roses are red. Violets are blue. I’m a lover conflicted about Valentine’s Day. How about you? When I was an adolescent, my middle school sold pink carnations on Valentine’s Day. The idea was that the boys could buy them for their girlfriends (or desired girlfriends)....
On love and the loss of TikTok
I know it sounds funny to use the word “love” in relation to a social media app, but the truth is, that is the feeling I have for TikTok. When it went dark this weekend in my home country of the US this weekend while I sat in my ex-pat home in Canada, I was reminded...
Why love is your best investment right now
Let me sit you down. Let me brew you some tea. And let me spill it all over the living room floor. Chaos is reigning. Trust is dwindling. And you know it. I’m not just talking about the way that politics is ripping families apart. I’m talking about the way that we...
Three things Trump teaches us about how (not) to be an epic lover
I woke up this morning, an American living in Canada, and immediately checked my phone. The first thing I saw was a text from a friend sharing a link to election results. She’s the most anti-politics person I know, so I knew if she was sending me something about the...
How to Be Lonely
How to be lonely in a world of 8 billion people. Don’t text back. Don’t text first. Wonder why no one ever calls. Never call anyone. Be too busy with work. Have a roster. Hold out for perfect. Be open for everyone who comes along. Fuck them on the first date and...
How to Protect Your Heart
We are at war with love. War…with love. At a glance, this seems like a contradiction. The concept of battle does not match the dreamy gaze of the poets. But. The horror stories are adding up. The level of deceit, lies, and heartbreak that exists in the dating world...
One Day You Will Not Be Heartbroken
Though you may have the bitter habit of denying all words of comfort right now, you must hear me on one thing: one day you will not be heartbroken. On that day, whether tomorrow or a thousand tomorrows from now, you will open your eyes and realize they no longer...
And I Tell You This
You ask me why I write about love. Why, in this time when we are watching the world spiral, I spend my words recounting the moments I have slid like honey into another’s chest. And I tell you this: I dreamt I was teaching him how to build a fire to heat his cabin....
Your Love is Power
I firmly believe that one of the most important things we can do in life is to love and be loved. In the opening line of my book, Letters to My Lovers, I share my belief that I count among my greatest successes in life my ability to continuously open to love. Even...
Birds and Bees: My Story about Ecosexuality
A little over a year ago I posted a video on my TikTok that got a modest amount of outcry. Modest enough to pass the algorithm’s test, but also modest enough to garner the interest of a media company who said they wanted to spread the word about what I was saying. ...
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The Bhagavad Gita 2:40