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Hey There –
Welcome to the Journal.
My name is Sonja and I am a healer, erotic educator, and writer of magic words.
Here on the journal, you’ll find posts with inquiries and practices that guide you into your body so you can get in touch with the life force within it. I write about topics like eroticism, intimacy, practical intuition, embodiment, relationships, sex, and non woo-woo spirituality.
Check in each week for new posts. If you like what you read, check out my 1:1 work and group programs.
Why love is your best investment right now
Let me sit you down. Let me brew you some tea. And let me spill it all over the living room floor. Chaos is reigning. Trust is dwindling. And you know it. I’m not just talking about the way that politics is ripping families apart. I’m talking about the way that we...
Three things Trump teaches us about how (not) to be an epic lover
I woke up this morning, an American living in Canada, and immediately checked my phone. The first thing I saw was a text from a friend sharing a link to election results. She’s the most anti-politics person I know, so I knew if she was sending me something about the...
How to Be Lonely
How to be lonely in a world of 8 billion people. Don’t text back. Don’t text first. Wonder why no one ever calls. Never call anyone. Be too busy with work. Have a roster. Hold out for perfect. Be open for everyone who comes along. Fuck them on the first date and...
How to Protect Your Heart
We are at war with love. War…with love. At a glance, this seems like a contradiction. The concept of battle does not match the dreamy gaze of the poets. But. The horror stories are adding up. The level of deceit, lies, and heartbreak that exists in the dating world...
One Day You Will Not Be Heartbroken
Though you may have the bitter habit of denying all words of comfort right now, you must hear me on one thing: one day you will not be heartbroken. On that day, whether tomorrow or a thousand tomorrows from now, you will open your eyes and realize they no longer...
And I Tell You This
You ask me why I write about love. Why, in this time when we are watching the world spiral, I spend my words recounting the moments I have slid like honey into another’s chest. And I tell you this: I dreamt I was teaching him how to build a fire to heat his cabin....
Your Love is Power
I firmly believe that one of the most important things we can do in life is to love and be loved. In the opening line of my book, Letters to My Lovers, I share my belief that I count among my greatest successes in life my ability to continuously open to love. Even...
Birds and Bees: My Story about Ecosexuality
A little over a year ago I posted a video on my TikTok that got a modest amount of outcry. Modest enough to pass the algorithm’s test, but also modest enough to garner the interest of a media company who said they wanted to spread the word about what I was saying. ...
Love More
I’ve been talking a lot about love lately. I’ve been recording the audiobook of Letters to My Lovers, a task that has filled my mouth with all sorts of sweet words, but it’s not just this recent to-do I’m referring to. Love has been one of my favorite topics of...
The Wisdom of Being Seen
If there’s one thing that I’ve learned from 20 years of work as an intuitive, it’s that most of us are desperate to be seen. To be seen – a metaphor for being understood, accepted, cherished, and valued exactly as you are. For the honorable parts and the quirks. The...
Naked and Alone with a Man: A Story of Power
“Whatever you’re doing, it’s working.” These were the recent words from a healer, a man who met me at my lowest point and, both by proxy and direct intervention, helped me access a state of vitality I'd not felt in years. I found him in winter 2021. It was the height...
Don’t Stop Me Now: The Erotic and the Power of a Healthy Nervous System
When it comes to healing, the way up isn’t always down. I’m speaking in terms of the nervous system, of course. And I’m speaking to the multitude of teachings that focus on attuning to calm as the definition of healing. What I’m saying is that true nervous system...
The Story of Surrender
I know what surrender looks like. She’s on her knees in response to my direction. But the buzz in my ears tells me she is afraid. I ask her what she feels. A desire to run away, she says. I tell her to stand and move away from my sight. He’s crawling toward me on...
Man or Bear or Me
The man vs. bear debate needs one more fighter in the woods: me (and you.) The question has been bouncing around online for some time now. The polls are closed and women have chosen the bear. But I question the question itself, and therefore the integrity of the data....
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In Your Words
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“On this path effort never goes to waste, and there is no failure.”
The Bhagavad Gita 2:40