Befriend your body. Rewrite the story of your life.
Your pain – and pleasure – are your best teachers.
A common misunderstanding that I see amongst people who are looking for guidance is that they believe that their life should be easy all the time. But this is a marketing campaign, not a reality.
The purpose of life is not to be happy all the time, but to have experiences. How we relate to these experiences – the positive ones, negative, or in between – creates the story of our life.
Our pleasure and pain are our greatest teachers. Each, in their own way, gives us the chance to understand who we are and what we want.
We love the pleasurable moments – they create meaning and joy if we can open fully to them. But life isn’t just the good stuff. Sitting with our greatest pain – opening to a tender exploration of why we hurt this particular way – shows us what we really want.
Weave together the teachings of pain and pleasure and you’ll end up with a legendary kind of life.
“I never fail at nothing, I only learn”
Your body is constantly talking to you. It speaks through your experience of pain and pleasure in order to make you an ally.
People who work with me usually have been in a state of chronic suffering for years. Whether it is chronic mental or physical illness, chronic relationship “failure,” or chronic inability to voice what they really want, they have an underlying belief that their bodies are betraying them.
Stuck battling desires for food, relationships, or experiences and the unwanted outcomes of these urges, they blame their bodies for leading them astray. They often become overwhelmed, numb, indifferent, or angry. In doing so, they believe they are protecting themselves from more pain, but they are also denying themselves a friendship with their body that defines healing.
Our bodies can’t betray us. They are simply vessels for our experience and have no agenda that is not inherently our own. Rather than resist the fantasies and urges that plague our minds, we can see them as messengers. They are here to teach us, to show us what we truly want and don’t want. The body is the conduit for our deepest desires.
The role of the intuition – a gift everyone possesses – is to interpret the messages from the body. Developing our intuition teaches us our yeses and nos.
Forget predicting the future, the best use of our intuition is in the present moment.
Your body is talking to you every moment. Its language is sensations, attractions, desires, passions, urges, inclinations, and emotions. The purpose of this communication is to guide us to alignment with our essence (caution: this may or may not align with societal expectations).
But these signals require interpretation – and interpretation requires intuition.
The intuition is both the felt sense that receives these messages from the body and the tool through which we interpret them. It is the oracle and the message, the guide and the seeker.
And everyone – everyone – is intuitive.
My work centers around using intuition to point my clients to the wisdom of their bodies. By unpacking the relationship between felt sense and meaning, they can reframe their experiences in the past and make choices now that lead to the kind of future they really, truly want.
I do this through my experience as a 20-year practicing intuitive (yes, I went to school for this) and by supporting my clients to become students of their own inner guidance. Through this process, they learn to see every moment – the glory of befriending pain and the bliss of embracing pleasure – as a journey to the kind of self-love that can only come from being their own main character.
In Your Words
“BodyStory was a truly transformative experience. Sonja beautifully weaves Ayurvedic wisdom with her own intuition in a way that creates profound connection to the ancient teachings.”
“Taking part in Sonja’s BodyStory class and sharing with her and others allowed my body and heart to have a more clear voice about its wants, needs and desires. Sonja created a sacred safe container for us to share openly and spontaneously.”
“I have participated in several SevaMama online courses and each has enriched my life in a different way. With each course, I gain new insights and build my Ayurvedic toolbox.”
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