Befriend your body. Rewrite the story of your life.
Hey There –
Welcome to the Journal.
My name is Sonja and I am a healer, erotic educator, and writer of magic words.
Here on the journal, you’ll find posts with inquiries and practices that guide you into your body so you can get in touch with the life force within it. I write about topics like eroticism, intimacy, practical intuition, embodiment, relationships, sex, and non woo-woo spirituality.
Check in each week for new posts. If you like what you read, check out my 1:1 work and group programs.
How to Have a Perfect Body
I’ll admit it: the first time I was in a room with 900 naked women was a shocking experience. I was shocked because I was in a room of 900 naked women. But that was only a fraction of what peeled my eyes open. As I gazed upon the cornucopia of bodies – different ages,...
Tea and Your Body: A Call to Ritual
I don’t know when the ritual of tea-drinking began, but I’m guessing it was a very long time ago. Maybe it started before we – in the form we now think of ourselves – were born. I imagine the rudimentary form of us watching a flower from a nearby tree fall into a clay...
The Wisdom of the Body
I know where the divine lives. I have the holy GPS coordinates. I’m in the DMs of that sacred inbox. I’ll share it with you. Follow my hands as they peel off the dress that has hidden this sublime site. Watch my skin prickle as you see the goddess revealing Herself in...
Touchable Sadness
My wish for you is simple: may you never experience pain. Or sadness, or grief, or terror, or the anger that too often masks these emotions. But that is a false wish, the type that I might have made one adolescent evening only to forget it the next day. It is...
The Wisdom of Nurturance
(listen to the audio recording) There’s a woman who travels with me everywhere I go. Her name: Nuestra Señora de Guadalupe. Aka, “Virgin Mary.” Whenever I go somewhere new, meet someone new, or have to do something I would rather not do, I loop her image etched into...
Bury me
If you want to know me, as you say that you do, then follow me into the deep, dark wood. Find me resting in the spongy, loamy soil. That place where your feet will practically bounce on the beds of three hundred generations of leaves. You will wonder if you...
A Room of My Own
(listen to the audio version) I want to thank my husband, Robin, for teaching me the most valuable lesson I’ve ever learned about the need for space in relationships. Like all valuable lessons, I learned this one the hard way. When he moved out of our shared bedroom...
When to Say Yes
When it hits your body like a wave crashing against the shore. When you finally step out of the fog. When you can barely hold yourself in your seat the moment you see it. When the butterflies making a home in your belly dissolve like vapor in the sun. When it feels...
When to Say No
When you’re not sure and not sure when you’ll be sure. When you’ve given all you can. When your dream doesn't have a place within theirs. When there’s no other option. When you want to keep something for you, without apology. When it’s over, really over. When your...
The Wisdom of Space
(listen to the audio version) I think we need some space. Because just as in nature, we begin with space. This is a nod to the Ayurvedic elemental teachings. Specifically the wisdom of akasha, or space, from which all other elements rise. Akasha, that liminal thing...
On Self-Pleasure and Being Your First Relationship
(listen to the audio version) Some big things happened when I found myself in a circle of strangers all engaged in group masturbation. Not the least of which was the shocking realization that I should center any sexuality I offer to another person from my own...
October Awake: This is How I Love
Welcome to Awake, a workshop on embodied intuition. This month's question, in a month about relationships is this: How have you loved? It's an important question. Given humans' biological need for one another -- and the pain this reality causes us -- it is perhaps the...
Your Perfect Broken Heart
I want your broken heart. I want the scar tissue and sutures. I want the bleeding and infested wounds, covered in scabs and bandages. Show me how they hurt you. Then show me how you rose up anyway. Tell me about the first day you realized you were going to make it....
The Wisdom of Relationships
(listen to the audio version) A simple truth about humans – our bodies need other bodies. We need each other to be seen/to see. To be held/to hold. To be received/to receive. Relationships are the blood and heartbeat of life. But they are also the rope, the concrete...
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After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
“On this path effort never goes to waste, and there is no failure.”
The Bhagavad Gita 2:40