(listen to the audio version) I want to thank my husband, Robin, for teaching me the most valuable lesson I’ve ever learned about the need for space in relationships. Like all valuable lessons, I learned this one the hard way. When he moved out of our shared bedroom...
(listen to the audio version) Some big things happened when I found myself in a circle of strangers all engaged in group masturbation. Not the least of which was the shocking realization that I should center any sexuality I offer to another person from my own...
I want your broken heart. I want the scar tissue and sutures. I want the bleeding and infested wounds, covered in scabs and bandages. Show me how they hurt you. Then show me how you rose up anyway. Tell me about the first day you realized you were going to make it....
(listen to the audio version) Of all the spiritual practices that I do, the ones I value the most are those that bring me fully into my body. Of all of the practices that connect me this way, I value sex among the highest. Of all my spiritual sexual practices,...
(listen to the audio version) My heart has been broken a million times, and I’m proud to say it. As I trace my fingers along the scars of my love line – from breakups that lasted longer than the relationships themselves, repeated abandonment, infidelity, divorce, and...
This post is part of the series called The Spiritual Side of Sex. What if proof that intuition exists can be found on any dating app? A friend texted me recently about a date he’d gone on. How was it? I asked. She was pretty, he said, but there was no chemistry. This...
This post is part of the series called The Spiritual Side of Sex. Let’s start with a bold admission: Sex is not about you. Reading that might cause some shockwaves in your body, so let me welcome all your reactions. Whether you feel cheated out of the birthright of...
There’s a point when we can go so far into something that we come out the other side. That’s where I find myself with this piece. There was a time in my life when I would have written a post saying that you should chase the O. Run after it. Do everything you can to...
I once met a woman who spent $5,000 on an empowerment program just to learn how to tell her husband, “A little to the left.” I hope it worked for her, because it did for me. It took four decades for me to realize that I had not just a right, but a spiritual duty to...
(audio version below) I have written a few sultry posts in this journal, but let me make this clear up front: This isn’t going to be a sultry post. It’s easy to confuse things, because when I say that we should engage in the wisdom of sensuality, of course the first...
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