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Letters to my lovers
A Memoir of Love and Loss
This book is for anyone who wants to believe in love again. But not love the way it’s being sold. This is not about fairy tales and Hollywood romances, but trusting the true nature of love, one that is as glorious as it is brutal.
Part confessional memoir, part erotica, part tutorial on how to turn heartbreak into fuel, this book will redefine how you see love and manage the inevitable loss that comes with it.
In 25 intensely personal love letters and an essay that offers an alternative to modern romance, you’ll learn what it means to risk everything for love and live to tell the tale. More than just secrets from the bedroom, this book is a guide to creating real intimacy in an increasingly closed-off world.
“I swear to goddess that your book obliterated my anxious attachment style”
People often ask me how long it took to write this book. My answer is always the same – a lifetime. Letters to My Lovers is a book that documents the experiences I’ve had as I took the risk of opening my heart – and legs – to give and receive love.
This memoir is an honest documentation of the journey I’ve taken, one love at a time, to understand what makes intimacy worth it despite all the bruises relationships leave on our skin.
Love is a skill, one that is both learned and innate. As more people grow apprehensive of love and intimacy, this book is an offering for those who want to trust again.
“The book is more than you think, it’s a gem of wisdom and of poignant conversations with love, loss, grief and hope. I really enjoyed it and would highly recommend.”
Coming soon – The Heartbreak Handbook
Inspired by Letters to My Lovers, The Heartbreak Handbook will be a companion guide to lead you through the journey of learning to trust yourself enough to love again.
Follow five simple steps to recover after a relationship ends and harness its wisdom, learn practices and tools that I’ve personally used to heal from heartbreak (and used with countless clients), and process your emotions by tapping into creativity with journal prompts and art practices.
The book is in progress and will be ready by early spring. Stay tuned for more details (and be the first to hear about its launch by signing up for emails above).
Don’t want to wait for The Heartbreak Handbook?
Join The Heartbreak Cure – A seven-week program to turn your pain into power.
- Seven 90-minute 1:1 sessions with me (Zoom or in person if you’re local) to teach the core principles of turning pain into power and guide your healing
- A guide with six accompanying somatic rituals to bring the principles of the Heartbreak Cure into your body
- Writing prompts to guide you in crafting your own mythic journey from heartbreak to healing
- Unlimited text support as needed during the coaching container
- A digital copy of the retelling of the legendary love of Parvati and Siva
- A closing ceremony led by me to affirm your legendary lover status
The answers are inside you – you just need to listen.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
The Journal
The Wisdom of the Wild
Are you going to let the last bit of wildness in you die? Will you turn the lock to your own cage and throw the key just out of arm’s length? Let the animal inside you be snuffed out and swept away by the call to civilized life? Or will you fight for its right to...
Erotic
You are an erotic being. You will always be an erotic being. Even before you took the form of your thighs, your lips, the inner arc of your elbow, you were the erotic. Yes, that dancing iridescent purple flash above the lovers your parents once were is and always will...
When I Say I Want You
When I say I want you... What I mean to say is that there’s a special tree in a grove of oaks that towers over me on my daily walk. His gaze, like a guardian beast, leaves me breathless. Though I am dressed in wool and leather, under his shadow I am as bare as...