Befriend your body. Rewrite the story of your life.
Stories
of Self Pleasure
Bringing self-love out of the shame closet
Beware: You’re only supposed to do this in private.
Welcome to Self-Pleasure Stories, a unique anonymous forum to capture your experience with masturbation.
Whether you call it wanking, fapping, jerking off, playing with yourself, self-abuse (lord, I hope you don’t call it that), telling your story of masturbation is a way to release yourself from shame and move yourself into pleasure.
Out of the Shame Closet
The act of self-love has too long been relegated to the spaces behind closed doors and under sheets, but what it holds is an offer of self-awareness.
Yes, your masturbation practice can lead to self-awareness.
Here’s why: When you learn what makes your body shiver and shake, you can more easily communicate your desires to a partner. And when you know how to ask for what you want in bed, you’ll be more able to ask for what you want in all parts of life.
So let’s take this act of self-pleasure out of the shame closet. Share the story of how you self-pleasure using the form below, anonymously or not. The simple act of allowing yourself to be witnessed in this usually secret space might be the most liberating thing you’ve done all year.
Why I Want to Know
One of my greatest pleasures in life is the ability to support people to rewrite what feels shameful into a story of their personal legend.
My aim in collecting these stories of self-pleasure is to offer anonymous coaching on my blog and social media around the value of intentional self-pleasure. Your story will in no way be matched to you as an individual (unless you directly tell me that’s what you want).
Hot tip: I’m looking for three volunteers who want to learn how to develop a deeper relationship with self-love that honors your body as the temple of pleasure it is. Sign up in the second form below.
Using the Form
Below, there are TWO forms. The first, is completely anonymous (if you want it to be.) The second, allows you to volunteer to learn how to develop a deeper relationship with self-love that honors your body as the temple of pleasure it is.
All questions are optional. Even if you submit your email address using the second form to volunteer, your identifying information will not be paired with your survey responses.
Self-Pleasure Stories
I'd Like to Volunteer:
The Journal
The Beauty of Giving a Fuck
I once loved a man in whose potential I believed deeply. Our bond was built on a shared desire to live free from shame, a promise I made to myself when I was 20 and echoed by him years later when we met. Though he and I lived toward the same end – the goal of giving...
The Wisdom of Beauty
I am writing this where I have been doing most of my writing for the past month – in a small hotel room with bad lighting and an open suitcase. Currently the setting is Rome, a place I swore I would never return. It was an ugly city that first time, in my eyes it was...
For My Grandmothers
There is a world in which I never fully existed, one that will always be yours and not mine. Which is another way of saying that you died before you could tell me all your secrets. Maybe I am there with you in some way. In a wisp of memory you held as your light faded...
“On this path effort never goes to waste, and there is no failure.”
The Bhagavad Gita 2:40