Befriend your body. Rewrite the story of your life.
My
PHILOSOPHY
The purpose of my work is to guide you to follow what’s most alive.
After two decades of working as a healer and coach, I believe our greatest liability as a species is that we have forgotten that we’re here to feel alive.
This doesn’t mean always being happy (this is life, not Hollywood, after all). It means filling your body with the greatest amount of life force available to you and using that as fuel to move you through your desires.
We can access life force when we are aligned to what we truly want. But in order to get there, we have to overcome the barriers of shame and social programming that tell us to fall in line. In order to do that, we must build a nervous system with the capacity to both surrender to what we cannot change and command our will to direct what we can.
“I never fail at nothing, I only learn”
Qveen Herby
The erotic is the gateway to greater life force in the body.
For many centuries, we have been taught that sexuality is a dangerous force. But what if it’s not dangerous, only a mighty power that we have limited tools to understand?
Erotic energy is our creative power. We can channel it into any project or passion we desire – this goes far beyond sexual connection.
When we learn to harness and direct erotic energy, we become powerful beyond measure.
But this kind of power is different from control. Here, I define the power of erotic life force as the capacity to experience states of surrender as easily as states of command. Knowing when to bow and when to stand tall is knowing how to follow the life force in every move we make.
In order to access greater life force (and harness the erotic), we must befriend our bodies.
Our bodies are constantly talking to us about the state of our life force, be it through messages of pain or pleasure, or the sensations that accompany emotions moving through us.
People who work with me have usually led themselves from their heads more than their bodies. They have made most decisions based on intellect, some of which have led to fine outcomes, but perhaps without much sparkle.
Ultimately they want more than just fine outcomes. They want legendary lives.
Getting there requires building trust in the intuitive sensations that live in and speak through the body. It requires having a rooted foundation from feet to head that lets us take up space and stop apologizing for what we want.
It begins by befriending the body and filling it with the fuel it has been missing.
Curious how this works in action?
Take a look at my 1:1 services. I put my philosophy into practice through Oracle of Love intuitive healings, somatic domination through The Art of Worship, learning to trust in love again through The Heartbreak Cure, and ongoing 1:1 integration in Emotional Alchemy Coaching.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
Work with me
1:1 - Emotional Alchemy
Deeply personal 1:1 support
The Art of Worship
Experience the power of surrender and command
The Heartbreak Cure
Find the (r)evolution of love within
The Journal
Black Culture Is American Culture
Black music has fed mainstream culture like a sacred spring. The songs, the dances, the soul — all of it has laid the foundation of everything that we want from pop culture. A foundation that is appreciated, but hung out to dry in the sun until it’s faded enough to make it sell.
Why is Overrated
I taught a course a few Mother’s Days ago for women seeking to rewrite the stories of the birth of their children (I have an itch to offer it again this year, so keep a lookout if you missed it). In it, I got to witness a gap between something that is commonly known among midwives, doulas, and witchy wisdom guides: we don’t get the birth we had imagined.
When Clowns Get Crowned
I was certain that Donald Trump would never be elected. “Él es un payaso,” (He is a clown) I explained to my server in Mexico back in late 2015 with a casual wave of my hand. My server maintained a worried expression. His family was in the U.S. and what Trump was saying then was a direct threat. One that became a reality.
“Working with Sonja is like having a very caring mother who accepts you, validates you, and is also real with you at the same time. ”
Katie