Befriend your body. Rewrite the story of your life.
My
PHILOSOPHY
The purpose of my work is to guide you to follow what’s most alive.
After two decades of working as a healer and coach, I believe our greatest liability as a species is that we have forgotten that we’re here to feel alive.
This doesn’t mean always being happy (this is life, not Hollywood, after all). It means filling your body with the greatest amount of life force available to you and using that as fuel to move you through your desires.
We can access life force when we are aligned to what we truly want. But in order to get there, we have to overcome the barriers of shame and social programming that tell us to fall in line. In order to do that, we must build a nervous system with the capacity to both surrender to what we cannot change and command our will to direct what we can.
“I never fail at nothing, I only learn”
Qveen Herby
The erotic is the gateway to greater life force in the body.
For many centuries, we have been taught that sexuality is a dangerous force. But what if it’s not dangerous, only a mighty power that we have limited tools to understand?
Erotic energy is our creative power. We can channel it into any project or passion we desire – this goes far beyond sexual connection.
When we learn to harness and direct erotic energy, we become powerful beyond measure.
But this kind of power is different from control. Here, I define the power of erotic life force as the capacity to experience states of surrender as easily as states of command. Knowing when to bow and when to stand tall is knowing how to follow the life force in every move we make.
In order to access greater life force (and harness the erotic), we must befriend our bodies.
Our bodies are constantly talking to us about the state of our life force, be it through messages of pain or pleasure, or the sensations that accompany emotions moving through us.
People who work with me have usually led themselves from their heads more than their bodies. They have made most decisions based on intellect, some of which have led to fine outcomes, but perhaps without much sparkle.
Ultimately they want more than just fine outcomes. They want legendary lives.
Getting there requires building trust in the intuitive sensations that live in and speak through the body. It requires having a rooted foundation from feet to head that lets us take up space and stop apologizing for what we want.
It begins by befriending the body and filling it with the fuel it has been missing.
Curious how this works in action?
Take a look at my 1:1 services. I put my philosophy into practice through Oracle of Love intuitive healings, somatic domination through The Art of Worship, learning to trust in love again through The Heartbreak Cure, and ongoing 1:1 integration in Emotional Alchemy Coaching.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
Work with me
1:1 - Emotional Alchemy
Deeply personal 1:1 support
The Art of Worship
Experience the power of surrender and command
The Heartbreak Cure
Find the (r)evolution of love within
The Journal
The Easy Dinner Template
The only thing that is more challenging than spending all morning at a Mexican government office waiting for your visas to be processed is spending the whole morning at a Mexican government office waiting for your visas to be processed with a toddler…whose parents forgot her snack.
There is very little one can do about this kind of situation besides take a number, go to the bodega across the street, buy a couple bananas, and wait.
The twos
I write this as my daughter is crying in the bedroom. My husband is in there with her, trying to coax her to put on her pajamas and get into bed. At the surface is her desire to watch a cartoon show, a rare treat for her. We don’t own a television and rarely even show her our phones, but she is learning to use the potty and her reward for a good poop is to see an episode of a show about this friendly tiger kid she loves.
On our best behavior
We have moved. Twice. Once from a tiny island across an ocean, then to a different country. My daughter is 2½, and cannot understand what would make us uproot everything she’s ever known and move to a place where her mother’s seven years of Spanish classes fail to meet all her needs.
It has been a very intense time of mothering. She cries for me nonstop. She clings to my neck like a 30-lb monkey, terrified about the way the stairs look, or that strange sound in the distance. She wakes in the night and yells my name. It is as if she needs to know that I did not sneak off while she was sleeping and hop on another airplane. Yes, my love, I say, Your mama is here.
“Working with Sonja is like having a very caring mother who accepts you, validates you, and is also real with you at the same time. ”
Katie