Befriend your body. Rewrite the story of your life.
My
PHILOSOPHY
The purpose of my work is to guide you to follow what’s most alive.
After two decades of working as a healer and coach, I believe our greatest liability as a species is that we have forgotten that we’re here to feel alive.
This doesn’t mean always being happy (this is life, not Hollywood, after all). It means filling your body with the greatest amount of life force available to you and using that as fuel to move you through your desires.
We can access life force when we are aligned to what we truly want. But in order to get there, we have to overcome the barriers of shame and social programming that tell us to fall in line. In order to do that, we must build a nervous system with the capacity to both surrender to what we cannot change and command our will to direct what we can.
“I never fail at nothing, I only learn”
Qveen Herby
The erotic is the gateway to greater life force in the body.
For many centuries, we have been taught that sexuality is a dangerous force. But what if it’s not dangerous, only a mighty power that we have limited tools to understand?
Erotic energy is our creative power. We can channel it into any project or passion we desire – this goes far beyond sexual connection.
When we learn to harness and direct erotic energy, we become powerful beyond measure.
But this kind of power is different from control. Here, I define the power of erotic life force as the capacity to experience states of surrender as easily as states of command. Knowing when to bow and when to stand tall is knowing how to follow the life force in every move we make.
In order to access greater life force (and harness the erotic), we must befriend our bodies.
Our bodies are constantly talking to us about the state of our life force, be it through messages of pain or pleasure, or the sensations that accompany emotions moving through us.
People who work with me have usually led themselves from their heads more than their bodies. They have made most decisions based on intellect, some of which have led to fine outcomes, but perhaps without much sparkle.
Ultimately they want more than just fine outcomes. They want legendary lives.
Getting there requires building trust in the intuitive sensations that live in and speak through the body. It requires having a rooted foundation from feet to head that lets us take up space and stop apologizing for what we want.
It begins by befriending the body and filling it with the fuel it has been missing.
Curious how this works in action?
Take a look at my 1:1 services. I put my philosophy into practice through Oracle of Love intuitive healings, somatic domination through The Art of Worship, learning to trust in love again through The Heartbreak Cure, and ongoing 1:1 integration in Emotional Alchemy Coaching.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
Work with me
1:1 - Emotional Alchemy
Deeply personal 1:1 support
The Art of Worship
Experience the power of surrender and command
The Heartbreak Cure
Find the (r)evolution of love within
The Journal
Welcome Home
I did it again. Made an inventory of what was definitely coming. Posted pictures of whatever I wanted sell, followed a few weeks later by more posts, this time in a slightly more frenzied manner. I went on patrol to local stores for used boxes. I secretly gave away my daughter’s unfavorite toys.
Summer and the Joy of Nothing
I have been very quiet lately. I haven’t posted a journal entry since I don’t know when. My social feeds have gained no new followers. My program outlines are not any closer to complete.
There’s a good reason for my silence: I just returned from four weeks in the United States visiting my family. It looked a lot like this.
On Progress and the Reflective Power of Sisterhood
A mama friend recently was visiting for a double playdate. We drank kava kava tea and talked in staccato conversations, interrupted every 10 minutes by our children who were about to kill themselves or each other. At one of the many points in the afternoon, I got up and saved my daughter from a near-death situation. I did it like I do it most of the time, addressing the behavior in clear words and redirecting her.
“You have the patience of a saint,” my friend told me when I joined her at the table again.
I laughed out loud. No one has ever described me like that. But reader, these days, it’s true.
“Working with Sonja is like having a very caring mother who accepts you, validates you, and is also real with you at the same time. ”
Katie