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Letters to my lovers
A Memoir of Love and Loss
This book is for anyone who wants to believe in love again. But not love the way it’s being sold. This is not about fairy tales and Hollywood romances, but trusting the true nature of love, one that is as glorious as it is brutal.
Part confessional memoir, part erotica, part tutorial on how to turn heartbreak into fuel, this book will redefine how you see love and manage the inevitable loss that comes with it.
In 25 intensely personal love letters and an essay that offers an alternative to modern romance, you’ll learn what it means to risk everything for love and live to tell the tale. More than just secrets from the bedroom, this book is a guide to creating real intimacy in an increasingly closed-off world.
“I swear to goddess that your book obliterated my anxious attachment style”
People often ask me how long it took to write this book. My answer is always the same – a lifetime. Letters to My Lovers is a book that documents the experiences I’ve had as I took the risk of opening my heart – and legs – to give and receive love.
This memoir is an honest documentation of the journey I’ve taken, one love at a time, to understand what makes intimacy worth it despite all the bruises relationships leave on our skin.
Love is a skill, one that is both learned and innate. As more people grow apprehensive of love and intimacy, this book is an offering for those who want to trust again.
“The book is more than you think, it’s a gem of wisdom and of poignant conversations with love, loss, grief and hope. I really enjoyed it and would highly recommend.”
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Inspired by Letters to My Lovers, The Heartbreak Cure is a companion course to lead you through the journey of learning to turn your pain into power.
In six modules (with accomanying 1:1 sessions), you’ll learn to reclaim your power from past relationships, harness the wisdom you gained, and become undevastatable in love.
You’ll learn practices and tools that I’ve personally used to heal from heartbreak and transform myself into a Love Goddess (a process I’ve guided countless clients through).
The answers are inside you – you just need to listen.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
The Journal
The mysterious musings of my spiraling spine
I injured my knee nearly three years ago. But if I’m being honest, the pain began in 1987.
That was the year I bent over in front of my pediatrician as he showed my mother the growing curve in my spine. I was ten years old. I remember feeling cold, wearing only fuchsia underwear that were a size too big for me and, I felt, slightly risqué for my age. As they went over the details of the progression, treatments, and complications (which included death from suffocation), all I could do was wish that I had chosen different panties.
How to clear the fog
There are many memes about 2020 being a do-over. I laugh too, but I always add an extra punch line: There are no do-overs. There is only what we are given and what we do with it.
Many people have buried themselves in a fog these past six months. It’s the mind’s natural response when faced with too much: COVID-19, racial reckoning, the cruel joke of online schooling, presidential disasters, wildfires…
August yoga nidra: Finding peace within
August yoga nidra: Finding peace within