You’ve been taught that there is a way to be a woman.
Or, more specifically, you’ve been taught there are two ways to be a woman.
The right way = always focusing on serving others’ needs in bed. Never enjoying sex too much. Never wearing your skirts too tight or heels too high. Never correcting or adjusting. Faking it.
The wrong way = the seductress, the vixen, the femme fatale, the slut. I don’t even have to explain what defines this path – you’ve been told a million times what goes into it and what happens.
But, like all things, there’s a third way. It’s the mysterious path that some women have managed to walk that steps entirely out of these binaries. And when they find out how to break unjust rules, they find their power.
Here’s a secret that guides those of us on this third way. Sex is our domain. Pleasure lives and dies in the world of the feminine (remember that the clitoris is the only human organ devoted to pleasure). And yet we are thousands of years deep into a mess that says we shouldn’t enjoy what our bodies are capable of. And we definitely shouldn’t ask for what we want.
It’s time to turn this around. Let’s fetch our crowns from the dumpster fire of dating app fake doms. Let’s polish away the sins of our fathers and adorn ourselves with the new/old wisdom that says we can – and must – learn to ask for what we want in bed.
And I’ll tell you that when we master it here – we can bring that skill into all parts of our life.
I just led a free workshop last week that offers a path to getting the sex you always thought would just come naturally. If you’ve ever found that your voice disappears the minute you take your clothes off, it’s for you.
You can watch the replay here.
Get ready to let go of everything you thought the “bad girl” does, and get ready to make your own rules.
