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Fantasy
a workshop on creative reality
Fantasy: A workshop on creative reality
It’s time to reclaim the shadowy places of your mind.
Welcome to the most ignored parts of you. The most overlooked closets. The dustiest recesses, the cobweb-filled corners. Though often neglected, here is a labyrinth of self-understanding that can create the reality that you want to live. Welcome to your fantasy land.
Why we Need Fantasy
We live in a culture that overvalues what is known, factual, and realistically deliverable. While grounding oneself in reality is vital in creating practical magic, playing in the world of creative imagination is the missing piece to self-knowledge.
Fantasy, loosely defined as the unrestrained imagination, is the land of the impossible, improbable, unethical, undeliverable. If there’s one thing that all fantasy worlds share, it’s their uniqueness. That’s right – your fantasy world is unlike any other. This is why it’s a gold mine to discover the unseen values that drive your life.
When you make your fantasies known, you can distill the pieces of your imaginary life to sculpt your reality.
Join the next round of FANTASY: a workshop in creative reality
The Places You’ll Go
Fantasy typically exists in the DO NOT ENTER realms of the imagination. If the door manages to nudge open a little, many are afraid of what they will find if they allow themselves to truly explore.
But the premise of this fantasy writing workshop is that, with wise guidance, what you’ll find there can form the inspiration for an intentional life.
In this workshop, I’ll lead you directly into the heart of your most fantastical imagination and guide you to mine these unspeakable narratives for the gold inside. You’ll write the secret stories you’ve never shared with anyone else and learn how to use them to shape your relationships, career, creative expression, and sex life.
By joining FANTASY, you’ll learn:
- to release yourself from the shame of wanting what you want.
- to let go of restrictive dos, don’ts, and shoulds in a safer container of exploration.
- ways to weave key findings from your exploration of your fantasy into your daily reality.
- to use writing as a tool for self-discovery.
- tips to develop a consistent practice of journaling and/or creative writing.
- to reclaim your wholeness by uniting the shadowy world of fantasy with the light of reality.
Upcoming Topics:
I’ll run FANTASY workshops on a quarterly schedule, or whenever I feel the inspiration hit me. Future workshops topics include:
Bloodlust: Revenge stories
Mythical Eros
Gluttony: Feast and Famine
Superheroes and Saviors
Get on my email list to be the first to know when a new workshop drops. Or send me a note to share your ideas for a future workshop.
Write Your Fantasy
In each workshop, we’ll open our minds, hearts, and journals to befriend the big scary parts of our imagination. In these pre-recorded sessions, you’ll dive into your fantastic imagination in your home, at your own pace. Here you’ll learn the tools to befriend the erotic, terrifying, outrageous, and bigger-than-life parts of you and let their stories come alive on the page.
But while fantasy can color reality, it is decidedly not reality. This is why I thoughtfully design each workshop to lead you into the abyss of your imagination and then bring you back to real life. These workshops offer a path to drop in and explore your fantasies so that you can more clearly understand what you want from life and how to ask for it.
Sample class flow:
- Opening invocation/grounding
- Discussion on that workshop’s topic
- Guided meditation
- Guided writing time
- Reflection and re-grounding
Sign up for the next Fantasy workshop.
The answers are inside you – you just need to listen.
FANTASY: Love Me
This winter’s offering is dedicated to erotic fantasy and the twisted path it lays to understand what we desire from a partner.
Our relationship with sexual fantasy is complex. At times it’s a friend that guides our sexual exploration, at others it hides a trap door to a basement of shame and guilt. Sexual fantasies might involve mythical creatures, special powers, otherworldly adventures, unethical or uncomfortable situations, or plays with power dynamics that are often unspeakable in our daily lives.
No matter how they show up, or what’s in them, to be able to share a sexual fantasy with a partner – or to listen to a fantasy – free from judgment is a step toward greater intimacy, trust, and sexual union.
While sexual fantasy is not the same as real life desire, it can shape how we connect to our partners and tell us what we truly want from any relationship.
Join FANTASY: Love Me to explore and write your sexual fantasies. Whether you do this alone or with a partner, do it to release yourself from shame and ignite your erotic power.
Register now and get instant access.
You’ll get a pre recorded video workshop with all the steps to follow your fantasy in absolute privacy. The workshop is about two hours long.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
The Journal
A Time Before Mama
Once upon a time I was not Mama.
I remembered this on a recent solo trip to New York City, the place I lived during the height of my maiden years. There I was, walking at a rapid pace to the subway, headphones filling my ears with the songs of my own personal soundtrack. I hurried through my old neighborhood in Brooklyn, old things now mixed with new things. And though I have now been away for more time than I was there, I suddenly felt a deep longing for the past.
A Redefinition of Self-Care, and a Prayer(ish) to Share
This morning, before anyone woke up, I did a few really important things.
First, I brushed my teeth, showered, and warmed up some tea (shatavari root, cardamom, and rose).
Then, I went downstairs to spend almost two uninterrupted hours completely to myself. I meditated with the spring equinox full moon pouring silver light onto my back. I journaled a bit, and then practiced asana as the sun filled the sky.
And then I went upstairs, when the real part of my Self-care practice began.
After my daughter wakes, my time is no longer uninterrupted. She is tossing toys around the house. Asking unanswerable questions (“Mama, but why can’t we touch the ceiling?”). Refusing a sweater, only to run around the house screaming, “I’m coooold!”
All of that is before we sit down to breakfast.
If I didn’t have the understanding that she is offering me a million opportunities to meet my higher Self, I would lose my mind every single day.
My Favorite Form of Yoga
I used to belong to a very fancy gym. I joined not only because of the fancy hot tub and steam room, but because it was where some of the best yoga teachers in Denver taught.
The classes were labeled with catchy phrases like “Power Flow” or “Kick-it” that told you very little about the ethos of the teacher. I knew enough to know that I should research the bios of the teachers before signing up — it matters greatly who teaches us.