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Letters to my lovers
A Memoir of Love and Loss
This book is for anyone who wants to believe in love again. But not love the way it’s being sold. This is not about fairy tales and Hollywood romances, but trusting the true nature of love, one that is as glorious as it is brutal.
Part confessional memoir, part erotica, part tutorial on how to turn heartbreak into fuel, this book will redefine how you see love and manage the inevitable loss that comes with it.
In 25 intensely personal love letters and an essay that offers an alternative to modern romance, you’ll learn what it means to risk everything for love and live to tell the tale. More than just secrets from the bedroom, this book is a guide to creating real intimacy in an increasingly closed-off world.
“I swear to goddess that your book obliterated my anxious attachment style”
People often ask me how long it took to write this book. My answer is always the same – a lifetime. Letters to My Lovers is a book that documents the experiences I’ve had as I took the risk of opening my heart – and legs – to give and receive love.
This memoir is an honest documentation of the journey I’ve taken, one love at a time, to understand what makes intimacy worth it despite all the bruises relationships leave on our skin.
Love is a skill, one that is both learned and innate. As more people grow apprehensive of love and intimacy, this book is an offering for those who want to trust again.
“The book is more than you think, it’s a gem of wisdom and of poignant conversations with love, loss, grief and hope. I really enjoyed it and would highly recommend.”
Join the Lover’s Revolution – Sign up for The Heartbreak Cure
Inspired by Letters to My Lovers, The Heartbreak Cure is a companion course to lead you through the journey of learning to turn your pain into power.
In six modules (with accomanying 1:1 sessions), you’ll learn to reclaim your power from past relationships, harness the wisdom you gained, and become undevastatable in love.
You’ll learn practices and tools that I’ve personally used to heal from heartbreak and transform myself into a Love Goddess (a process I’ve guided countless clients through).
The answers are inside you – you just need to listen.
In Your Words
“I am a changed person because of Sonja and so are my relationships.”
"I was surprised by how well Sonja really listened to me, and not just my words. She is present, and thus can find the deeper expression among all the rambling and 'I don’t knows.'"
"Sonja is a wise, authentic guide teaching deep and mind-blowing truths using a fun, light-hearted approach.
After each session, I feel more in touch with my intuition and filled with optimism."
The Journal
The Sacred Act of Peeling Almonds (Video)
There was a time when someone suggested I peel a cup of almonds. I couldn’t believe that anyone had the time. I think I laughed at the idea and popped a few whole into my mouth. My ego has done a lot of downsizing since then.
You see, according to Ayurveda, the skins don’t digest well and turn into ama (toxins) in the body. However, almonds are highly revered as a food that builds vitality. So they are an important medicine. And part of their healing is that they require us to spend some time with them first.
Vintage silk haori: A birth story
I wanted to do things really well after my daughter was born.
No, I wanted to do them perfectly.
While I was pregnant, I would watch a mother drag her screaming toddler out of a store and imagine offering perfect discipline that would prevent such an episode. I would see a disheveled mother tossing her kid out of the car at school, cold toast in her hand, and imagine how my perfectly scheduled day would allow us to arrive on time, if not early.
Finding gold in abhyanga
Maybe it’s that I didn’t sleep well last night. Maybe it’s that I’m stressed about building a business. Or maybe it’s just one of those times in my life when I have walked the edge of the cliff for too long and am getting ready to jump beyond where I am. It doesn’t really matter why. It is, and that is enough.