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Erotic Alchemy
Transform the story of your sexual self. Awaken your power.
Welcome to the edge of fantasy and reality. Welcome to the space where healing can be pleasurable. Welcome home to your body and the power of your erotic self.
In this space, you’ll learn to flirt with the shadows that have been chasing you. To seduce the deep black holes with a wink and a kiss. To dominate what once terrified you. To surrender to what you most desire.
This is erotic alchemy.
The Golden Touch
To alchemize is to change the form of one thing into another. It is a type of magic, to be sure, but, in this case, it is one that can be applied to practical and emotional matters. The type of alchemical response I guide my clients to achieve here is the work of changing perspective, of gaining a new view, of seeing suddenly that the thing that was supposed to crush us is what gives us our power.
What we are alchemizing in this work is not lead into gold, but turning the heaviest part of our histories into a bejeweled crown. We are turning stuckness into fluidity, frustration into release, disappointment into desire.
And, alongside the power of the erotic, we’re doing it with a little spice.
What is Erotic Alchemy?
There is no better partner in this work of transforming our stories of pain into power than the erotic. Our eroticism and sexuality are simultaneously the most magnetic and outcast parts of us. Shunned and forgotten, yet primal and delicious. Our sexual wounds mirror our lives, so it stands that when we heal an aspect of our sexuality, we dress that wound in all parts of our life.
But there’s another reason that the erotic is such a powerful tool for emotional alchemy – because sexual and sensual expression is one of the only areas in which adults engage in play.
You’ll often hear me quote the research of Dr. Karyn Purvis who found that it takes around 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the human brain. But if we are engaged in play, it takes only 10 to 20 repetitions. That means that playful healing is the fastest form of healing that exists.
Erotic Alchemy takes clients through a range of tools, including creative writing, make believe, fantasy, archetypical exploration, and role play with personas that represent some aspect of you that is aching to have its day. These tools are grounded by more familiar healing techniques, such as breathwork, sacred touch, guided meditations, and living ritual.
Taken together, the tools of Erotic Alchemy awaken parts that they have put to sleep and embolden what is already pumping in your body.
What does Erotic Alchemy look like?
One little secret to knowing the power of the erotic: it is constantly shifting and taking new forms. This is why each session is bespoke, meaning it’s completely tailored for you and your desires. While I have guidelines and frameworks that guide us, I follow the path that is most brightly lit for you.
This means that every session will look different as your needs progress and desires align. It follows you as the expert of your own healing, not some predetermined agenda based on what I think you need to do.
Sessions can be in-person or online. They can offer touch, breath, sound, role play, writing, dance, intimacy exploration, self-pleasure coaching and so much more – where your energy comes most alive is where we will go.
We start when you share a bit of your story. Fill out this form to tell me where you are in your journey, your pain and pleasure points, and what you are aching to express in the world. Using that information, I’ll design a custom package that will ignite your inner fire and reclaim your role as the hero in your story.
Please note that I don’t accept everyone for this work. If you are invited to work with me, we will create shared agreements and intentions to guide our time together. As the practitioner, I will uphold these agreements. I expect you to follow my lead in upholding your side as a way to ensure we can continue working together.
I offer both one-off sessions and packages of four to six sessions that are designed to rewrite one central storyline in your life using the power of the erotic.
Packages start at $800.
Who is this work for?
Erotic Alchemy is for you if you have been holding back your sexual expression for too long.
Erotic Alchemy is for you if you’re done wrestling with the shadows and are ready to bring them into the light.
Erotic Alchemy is for you if you want to know this mysterious power that lives inside you and every being that has ever lived.
Erotic Alchemy is for you if you want to explore new sides of yourself and be liberated from shame.
You are welcome here if you seek to:
- heal traumatic sexual experiences
- overcome fear and shame of your sexuality
- learn how to express desires and offer true consent
- explore your sexuality after a divorce, illness, pregnancy, or other big life event
- learn how to build intimacy with yourself or another
- try on hidden personas or archetypes that are aching to be expressed
- experience deeper love for your body and the stories it holds
I invite you to this work if you have a specific intention in mind. I also invite you to this work if you are simply curious. If you want to know what kind of pleasure you like and don’t like just because. If you want to play with fantasy and kinky role play just because. If you want to practice receiving new versions of loving touch, just because. You are also welcome here.
Whatever brings you to the desire to turn your erotic expression into gold, I welcome you on this journey of sex and spirit.
“I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror and say a nice thing about myself when we first started working together. I can say all kinds of nice things to myself now.”
What does Erotic Alchemy look like?
One little secret to knowing the power of the erotic: it is constantly shifting and taking new forms. This is why each session is bespoke, meaning it’s completely tailored for you and your desires. While I have guidelines and frameworks that guide us, I follow the path that is most brightly lit for you.
This means that every session will look different as your needs progress and desires align. It follows you as the expert of your own healing, not some predetermined agenda based on what I think you need to do.
Sessions can be in-person or online. They can offer touch, breath, sound, role play, writing, dance, intimacy exploration, self-pleasure coaching and so much more – where your energy comes most alive is where we will go.
We start when you share a bit of your story. Fill out this form to tell me where you are in your journey, your pain and pleasure points, and what you are aching to express in the world. Using that information, I’ll design a custom package that will ignite your inner fire and reclaim your role as the hero in your story.
Please note that I don’t accept everyone for this work. If you are invited to work with me, we will create shared agreements and intentions to guide our time together. As the practitioner, I will uphold these agreements. I expect you to follow my lead in upholding your side as a way to ensure we can continue working together.
I offer both one-off sessions and packages of four to six sessions that are designed to rewrite one central storyline in your life using the power of the erotic.
Packages start at $800.
The Journal
Karma yoga (on the path of motherhood)
I like the skins on sweet potatoes. I enjoy their texture and I like knowing that there are nutrients in them. I also don’t particularly like peeling them. It adds an extra step that is not necessary, which makes a difference in the limited time I have to cook us a meal. But she doesn’t like them. If I leave the skins on anything — sweet potatoes, carrots, grapes, even chickpeas — she sticks out her tongue and spits until the offending characters out of her mouth. Perhaps the texture is too much for her smooth baby tongue. Or maybe she doesn’t have the right technique to adequately grind the skins down with these new teeth of hers. My job is to smooth the rough road ahead of her, so I peel the sweet potatoes before I put them in the food we will share.
This too with love
I lived on Kauai for the past two years. During that time I never seemed to see the news. No one I knew had televisions and I almost never saw a paper. But as we are transitioning our life to Mexico, I have been stationed at my in-laws’ house in a suburban purgatory for a month. This is my vacation to the rest of the world. Here, the news is a part of life.
It’s not that I value being uninformed. Quite the contrary. It is that I value learning what I need to learn without taking a healthy dose of fear alongside it. It is possible to do this, though it does take a bit of work because everyone has a slant, including me.
How I learned to become an Ayurvedic baker (plus a recipe for cookies you can eat for breakfast)
When I was in my early twenties, I woke very, very early and hauled myself into a kitchen of a cafe in Boulder, Colorado. I flipped on the lights at 5:00 a.m., turned on the ovens, and spent my morning hefting gigantic trays of steaming muffins, pies, and cookies from back of house to front.
Baking has been in my DNA since I was born, and it was delicious fun to live out my childhood fantasies as a professional baker. But as much as I loved spreading the perfect cream cheese frosting on a carrot cake, this new direction kept appearing for me. At the same time I was learning to perfect my cheesecake recipe, I was learning about the effects of refined sugar on my body. I was whipping up layer cakes while doing candida cleanses, and suddenly it just fell apart. I left my job as a sugarplum drug dealer and sadly tucked my apron deep into the back of my pantry.
“On this path effort never goes to waste, and there is no failure.”
The Bhagavad Gita 2:40